13 Ways To Be a Better LOVER

13
ways to be a better lover

Okay this one is for the guys. Guys often get a bad rap when it comes
to their bedroom antics. It doesn’t have to be this way. An explanation
might be needed for the women reading this. Guys, when we are young are
labelled a freak until we’ve had sex with someone, it often doesn’t matter
with whom and where as long as we get sex. It’s like a ritual. we
start to go a funny shape if we haven’t had sex by a certain age.

Now for some men this ‘go get it’ attitude never really leaves them and they
carry this on into their long term relationships. we are not taught how
to make love properly and it’s kinda embarassing going into borders and buying
‘the joy of sex’ book, although amazon has changed all that. However
with these 13 tips you can become a Casanova in no time and you will be ‘getting
it’ more than ever.

1. Always, always, always be attentive.

Guys are often seen as being a bit insensitive. This is not always the
case but it is generally true that they are less sensitive than women. We
need to pay close attention to our partner’s feelings and wants and act
on them accordingly.

2. Spoil your partner

Spoil them in every way, in the bed, in the house, lavish them with attention
when out, buy little gifts, leave little notes. All this stuff is not
just for newly weds; it’s for the rest of your life if you want it.

3. Touch

Touching and stroking your partner is great for us and even better for them. A
warm sensual oil massage can be the most sensual thing in the world and it
gets you brownie points. However don’t spoil the massage moment
by giving her a quick 5 minute rubdown and then expect a long sensual 30 minute
massage for you.

4. Make it last another 10 minutes

If you are used to making love for 10 minutes, which can be great, make it
last another 10 minutes by touching, kissing and caressing more. Then
after a few weeks increase it again by another 10 minutes.

5. Kiss before and after

There is nothing better than a full on kiss before making love. However
there is nothing better than a full on kiss after making love. I know,
I know the sleep monster is trying to kick in at this stage but it is well
worth paying attention and kissing and stroking for 10 minutes after making
love.

6. Caress, don’t grab!

I have often confused breasts with lumps of clay to mould and shape as I see
fit, apparently this is not how it’s done. Caressing is much better,
teasing and kissing softly is much better, you should see results immediately.

7. Try new things

If you partner suggests a new move or a new anything else be willing to try
it. If you don’t like it then be honest and tell her.

8. Tell her you love her (if you have a partner, not needed
   if it’s
   a one night stand!)

This might sound too simple, but it’s important for women to hear this. Don’t
just glance from the TV and say ‘love you babe’, every once in
a while tell her why you love her, she’s sexy, intelligent, a great mother,
a great lover, a fantastic wife just tell her why you love her.

9. Kiss all over

Try every area of the body until you find the sweet spots and then concentrate
on them in the future. Vary the routine. I used to think there
was a set formula of 5 minute fumble, kiss a little, make love, and fall asleep. Thankfully
that was in my younger days, now its 6 minutes for the fumble (only kidding!). Try
changing your love making habits, lie making love during the day not just in
bed before going to sleep, try it in the morning, you get the picture.

10. Ask what your partner likes

There is no better way of knowing what you partner likes than asking them.

11. Dress it up a little

This can be a great way of injecting something different into your lovemaking. Don’t
be afraid to tell your partner your kink and ask them to oblige and similarly
be willing to dress it up.

12. Foreplay

This can be the most important part of lovemaking for your partner. If
we are being honest, guys are brought up to relieve the tension quickly. However
it can be great for both partners to experience increased tension by making
foreplay last much longer.

13. Enjoy the experience

It’s great, it can de-stress us, it can give us a great ‘after
sex sleep’, it brings us closer to our partner, enjoy the whole experience.

Pre-Valentine's Day 101 for the Guys

Pre-Valentine's Day 101 for the Guys

As Valentine’s Day approaches, it's a great time to start treating the woman you love. Here, you will explore ways to make a partner feel special during the ten days approaching Valentine's Day. Why ten days? Why not? It is a round number and it gives you plenty of time to give her the attention that she deserves for picking the best guy around. It is really her day, after all.

This journey will make you appreciate her more because you are focusing so much energy into her in this time. And what thanks you will get after you have reminded her of the sensitive and 

loving man of her dreams!

Before getting started on these unique ways to celebrate Valentine's Day, try a fun riddle: "I am just two of two. I am hot. I am cold. I am the parent of numbers that cannot be told. I am a gift beyond measure, a matter of course. I am given with pleasure when taken by force. What am I?" (Contributed by an anonymous writer. Answer is at the bottom.)

Preparing for Valentine's Day

Ten days until Valentine's Day and it is time to dig up some old spice from your past time together. Whether it is a new love that you are celebrating or an old one, bring on some memories. Perhaps you have taken pictures together or you still have some old movie tickets or love notes around. You might have to raid her drawer to find those long-lost treasures but it is a good time to pull those out and start a conversation with her about some of the great times you two have had. Begin to wonder with her about your lives and how close you have become – how wonderful it will be to make new memories for yourselves.

When there are nine days until Valentine's Day, give her a short, sweet note and leave it on the mirror at home for her to wake up to or find when she returns from work. This is your chance to be really mushy, guys!

When there are eight days before Valentine's Day, why not wash those dishes or clean out that cat litter box for her? She does the upkeep around the place to keep it nice for you every day, right? Give her an extra break today and beef up your standing.

Seven days until Valentine's Day, and hopefully, you plan to take her to that nice restaurant on February 14, so go ahead and make reservations (though remember that some really popular restaurants book months in advance.) Or plan the menu for a nice home-cooked dinner in with the good china. Surprise her with your grandmother’s special recipe!

When there are just six days until Valentine's Day, write her a longer love letter from your heart. Tell her everything that you keep inside when you hate to disagree and when you just don't say it. Let all the feelings of appreciation flood into a letter of your intent. Sell her your love again.

Revving Things Up to Prepare for Valentine's Day

When there are just five days before Valentine's Day, go out and find her favorite body spray, lotion, or perfume, and buy some for her. Give it to her when she’s not expecting a gift from you. It might also be a good time to find a gift for the big day.

There are four days until Valentine's Day. When was the last time you two went somewhere unimportant together just to be in the same place at the same time, enjoying each others company? Go shopping for groceries with her or take a walk in the neighborhood. Maybe just window shop at the mall for an hour or two – just because.

When there are just three days left before Valentine's Day, it's time to take a photo of yourself and make a homemade card so that you can give it to her on Valentine’s Day. Oh, but that’s not all! She needs a special massage from you. Ask her where she’s feeling stressed today and do your best handiwork on those sore muscles. Who knows? You just might get a “thank you” massage right back!

When there are just two days to go until Valentine's Day, rent her favorite “girl” movie and watch it with her! She will love you just for that!

Ideas to Celebrate Valentine's Day

When there's just one day before Valentine's Day, it's time to give her breakfast in bed. Who could possibly deserve it more? Make what she loves to eat and give her a sweet good-morning kiss to wake her.

When Valentine's Day finally arrives, you might find that you've fallen in love with her all over again. She may be on cloud nine and you probably don’t want to stop all of this flowering of attention. Whatever you decide to do or give on this day is entirely up to you but remember that the girls love a little bling. If it’s not in your budget then make sure you send those roses to work to meet her. Put your hand-made card in with them. Nothing will make her glow more than to be able to show her peers how much her man loves her. She has already told them about her wonderful week with you.

Congratulations to you! You have made the two of you the happiest couple around. Now it is up to you to reap the benefits of a satisfied woman and a renewed sense of love and appreciation in the relationship.

(Answer to riddle: "I am a kiss!")