How to Be The Leading Man & Get The Woman You Want

How to Be The Leading Man & Get The

 Woman You Want

Kristi Ambrose-  Contributor

The perfect woman out there has her eyes set on you and nothing but you. All the men around her want her, give her the attention that any woman would love, yet she would never trade anything for you -- even if you haven't been giving her the special treatment that other men do. Sounds familiar, right? In the 50s it was Cary Grant, in the 90s it was Hugh Grant. By the 21st Century, it was Leonardo Di Caprio with his movie Titanic. These leading men get the right women who love them, warts and all. Amazing, isn't it? Well, you too can be the leading man type and be a suave pick up artist throughout your lifetime.

Read books; it helps. Honestly. Don't believe anyone who would claim that their "appeal" to women is purely natural. Please, that is a total crap. Art of Persuasion is something that has a formula and can be learned. You can also learn it if you only know how to do it exactly. There are tons of books out there that are specifically written to teach a man how to get the woman he wants and keep her wanting him. The basic guide is usually laid out clearly: from giving that perfect pick up line to follow up and follow through. Read these types of books; books that teach you step-by-step on how to achieve the leading man status. It will make you believe that you can do it, will help you boost your self-confidence and give you the "secrets" that men next to you won't ever reveal to you, even if you pay him 10 grand. Invest time to read them. It's all worth the trouble.

Practice. In your head. After reading these pick up books, use your imagination to practice the scenarios given in the books. Imagine yourself pulling a "care to have a drink" line without you getting a "no, thanks" look from your lady. Be creative and create your own pick up lines based on the examples provided in the book. Create different scenarios in your head and give your own take to the situation -- how you would handle a woman and how you would be remembered even after that first meeting. Practice In the wild. Practice makes perfect, so they say. It's true. With the secrets you learned from a pick up artist book, it's now time to give it a test drive.

You might blunder the first time, or you may not. Whichever the results of your test in the wilds would be, don't get discouraged or too eager. Learn from your tests and take note of both the good and the bad. In no time at all, you will reach the leading man status that only movie stars enjoy in movies they make.

Kristi Ambrose

MEN: DON'T OVER DO IT & LEARN "THE BIG CHILL"

MEN: DON'T OVER DO IT & LEARN "THE BIG CHILL"

Vince Santaella- Contributor




Now that we know that giving her too much attention is a BAD thing, how do you chill out? Simply put, eliminate your desire. Even in writing, that seems easier said than done, but when you eliminate your desire, you will have complete control over your thoughts and actions. 

It's like going grocery shopping. If you are starving, you are going end up buying tons a food you didn't need or want that probably isn't the least bit good for you. Not even your will power could come through for you this time. If you had just eaten before going, you would have easily been able to stick to your shopping list, because you would have had complete control over your desire to eat everything in sight.

Eliminating your desires:

1. Stay busy - School, work, friends, sports, whatever. 
2. Continue to talk to other girls. 

This girl should not be your number 1 priority. Staying busy and talking to other girls will prevent you from catching one-itis and feeling the need to constantly think about her and talk to her. The less there is of you to go around, the more desirable YOU are. 

I'm not saying completely ignore her. You have to find a balance between giving her too much attention and not enough attention. You don't want the hook to fall out just as much as you don't want the fishing line to break.

You got it?

Vince Santaella

HOW TO BEAT THE MOST DEPRESSING DAYS OF THE YEAR

HOW TO BEAT THE MOST

DEPRESSING DAYS OF THE YEAR

Emily Main-  Contributor

April may be the cruelest month, but January seems to take the cake for being the most depressing. Post-holiday letdown turns into failed New Year's resolutions, which are exacerbated by short days, long nights, bad weather, and holiday credit card bills. This kind of low-level winter depression seems to be a seasonal fact of life. "It's very common for people to get down during long winter months," says Dawn LaFrance, Psy.D., associate director of the Counseling Center at Colgate University in upstate New York. "And while January seems bad, February can be bad, too. People keep waiting for spring, and winter just keeps going."

There's a difference between a winter funk and the more severe condition, seasonal affective disorder, says LaFrance, the latter of which is characterized by clinical depression, anxiety, and changes in weight. "The difference is usually seen in the severity and intensity of symptoms," she says. "It's OK to cry, but are you crying for three days straight?" She adds that winter blues usually last a couple of days, at the end of which you can find something to be happy about or some pleasure in your life.

Gary Malone, M.D., medical director and chief of psychiatry at Baylor All Saints Medical Center at Fort Worth, adds that serious symptoms, such as rapid changes in weight and sleeping more than nine hours a day or less than five, are signs of a more serious disorder. "You do need medication when you become so depressed that you can't function on a daily basis," he says.

For anyone dealing with a simple bout of winter funk, the best coping mechanisms are simple steps like eating right, exercising, and not focusing too much on the weather outside:

1: Try to pinpoint what is getting you down.

You may automatically assume it's the weather or the shorter days, but some of your misery may be attributable to cultural factors. "A week ago Monday was a very depressing day here in Texas because the Cowboys lost in the playoffs," says Dr. Malone. It may seem trivial, he says, but psychiatrists have written papers on the effect of sports-team losses on the cultural psyche. Or it could be as simple as those holiday bills, says LaFrance. "Stress from finances can play into that a lot," she says, "particularly with the economic problems people are having right now." Depression really depends on the individual, Dr. Malone adds, and once you figure out what's getting you down, you're better able to cope or improve your circumstances.

2: Don't let your mood dictate your plans.

If you're in a funk, it's important to keep up your social contacts, says Dr. Malone. People generally make plans with friends when they're feeling good, and then cancel those plans when they feel down—which, he says, will just make you feel worse. "Of course, you want to keep a balance, and you don't want to go out every night. But if you find yourself getting depressed and withdrawing from your friends, pay attention to that," he says. "Sitting in a dark house watching TV isn't good for anybody." Push yourself to keep your social obligations even if you'd rather hibernate. And, adds LaFrance, tell a friend that you need someone to help you through this time of year. Have that person check in more often, if need be, to keep your spirits up.

3: Watch your diet.

"It's harder to eat healthy in the winter," says LaFrance, "and people eat more carbs, which just weigh them down." Carbohydrate cravings can be a symptom of the more severe seasonal affective disorder, but when you look at most of what we define as "comfort foods"—macaroni and cheese, grilled cheese, lasagna, chicken and dumplings—they're pretty carb-heavy. Carbs prey upon our brain's pleasure sensors, says Dr. Malone, which makes them enticing. But, at the same time, they can slow you down and make you feel lethargic. Work more organic fruits and vegetables into your diet, cooking up winter greens or using frozen fruits to make a post-workout smoothie. And find restaurants with healthy menus. "In the wintertime people eat out more—because you're stuck inside," says Dr. Malone, but with restaurants' high-fat fare, all that dining out could add up to weight gain, which will exacerbate your winter funk after you realize you've failed at that resolution to drop 30 pounds.

Happy Holidays!

Emily Main

WHY WOMEN ARE LIKE SQUIRRELS

WHY WOMEN ARE LIKE SQUIRRELS

Willie Fernandez-  Contributor

If you think of a squirrel in the winter, it spends most of its time collecting and storing food to make it thru the winter. They take one nut out at a time as needed to survive. Women are no different than a squirrel especially in an argument. I bet you are wondering, ‘How so?’

A Guy and a girl are having a sensible discussion. The guy says something that the girl really doesn’t like. Rather than addressing it at the moment, she stores it for future use (like a squirrel stores his nuts). A few weeks go by and they are in another argument. This time she is losing the argument and not getting her point across. In order to change the tide of the argument to her favor, she pulls a squirrel tactic, and brings out the issue that took place weeks ago and uses it against the guy. Mind you, it has nothing to do with the argument at hand. She stored the issue like a squirrel stores its food, and then brings it out when needed. 

This tactic in many cases will actually escalate an argument and create animosity between parties. It is always best to address any issue at the moment. Express how you feel, and if you have been hurt, let the person know. If you move past the argument, there is no need to rehash it n the future. If you didn’t address it, consider it dead, but don’t be a squirrel.  ;)

Willie Fernandez

SHOULD COUPLES LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE?

SHOULD COUPLES LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE?

Whilly Bermudez-  Host / Commentator

I hope my teenage daughter isn’t reading this because although we all prefer for our daughters to get married before living with someone- I have to disagree. After having someone live with me and learning how everyone has little differences, pepeeves, and ways of doing things within a home, it’s clear that it’s a good idea to learn some of those things first. Knowing the who, how, and when of your significant other is key to success.  In my opinion, this is how you can identify what you can or cannot live with. What do you say?

 
It's undeniable that marriage and relationships in general look nothing like they did 40 years ago. What's happened? Women's lib, skyrocketing divorce rates, the death of the nuclear family -- and that's just for starters. The whole game has changed.

Sometimes I think that each generation exhibits a reactionary trend to their predecessors.

I am part of the "divorced parents" era. About 60 percent of all people I meet my age come from broken homes. While this phenomenon didn't necessarily make us "anti-marriage," it has certainly made us "marriage cautious" or "marriage disillusioned."

I know the statistics -- if I ever do tie the knot, I know it ain't gonna be all sunshine and roses. And that's why I plan to be as sure as I can possibly, possibly be.

Before I exchange any vows, I've made a vow to myself: I MUST live with someone before I marry them. I'm not alone in this thinking. About 70 percent of couples are cohabiting before marriage these days, according to research from the University of Denver.

When people say, "You never really know someone until you live with them," they are speaking the damn truth.

I realize that there are also opponents of this belief, primarily in the religious arena of society. However, I think you ultimately have to do what you feel will produce the best course of action and its results. Be happy and try to make the least amount of mistakes as possible. ;)

Cheers!

WHILLY BERMUDEZ

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN SOMEONE'S BOOTY CALL ?

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN SOMEONE'S BOOTY CALL ?

Marcos V-  Host / Commentator

Let's start with your truth of the week..shall we? Have you ever been someone's Booty Call? Yes, tell the truth...don't lie! You know you have  ;)     Oh wait, your acting like you don't know that is huh?  Ok, I guess Ill have to play dumb and take you to school...

The Definition:

What is a Booty call? While today’s definitions of this term may vary from humorous to more serious in nature, one thing is clear: Booty calls and the act of booty calling have definitely infiltrated the cultural zeitgeist and haves become a term that is known to people of all ages. Starting as a slang term coined in the 1990s, booty calls as a concept have evolved over the past two decades.

The History of a Booty Call:

The term ‘booty call’ is believed to have been officially coined in the early 1990’s by a series of comedians, rappers, and writers who used the term to describe a specific encounter – literally picking up the phone, calling someone you’d like to see that night/early morning for one thing and one thing only: booty. No strings attached.

However, through the years, the term has clearly changed. Shadowing the cultural changes that have taken place over the past two decades, the term has evolved and changed to include an expanded definition.

Modern day booty calls:

Today, booty calls mean something more. No longer only about sex, booty calls today truly mean an encounter of your choice. The key is connecting with someone with similar interests without having any unrealistic expectations. The Millennials have had quite a bit to do with this trend. Generational and pop culture trends are also showing that Gen X and Y are taking a “marriage can wait” approach and are settling down later in life, embracing the freedom they have now. Women have embraced the term thanks to television’s sexually empowered characters like Samantha Jones in Sex & the City, who’ve made it socially acceptable to be open and forthright about fulfilling one’s sexual needs. And men, well, men are usually down for anything!

Wanna find a booty call now? Well, I can’t help you but I’m sure you can find your way around. As for me, IVE NEVER EVER HAD A BOOTY CALL  J 

MARCOS V

2010 Is Completely Yours (PART 2)

2011 Is Completely Yours

Part 2

It means that you believe that you can change, that you will not indulge in self blame or make excuses, that you will not wishful think and concentrate solely or your results. It means that you understand your motivation and the reasons why your resolutions are important. They are a part of you. You are an important investment and important investments require time. By investing your time effort you are sure to be successful. Focus on one thing at a time acknowledge distractions but be sure to move forward.

Designate a friend or mentor to share your success stories with. Research indicates that those who are successful at making changes have excellent support systems. Many of those who make resolutions never tell others about them. Consciously or subconsciously, that way if they fail no one will view them as a failure. Communicating your resolution and intentions actually increases your accountability to the behavior. From the very beginning it is important to share your objectives and goals with those around you so that you can enlist their support. Knowing that you are accountable to someone other than yourself will help to keep you on track.

Be very persistent. Don't give up! Don't surrender to temptation, difficulty or temporary failure. Persist until you achieve the goal. Last but certainly not least, cultivate personal integrity and commitment. This is the very oxygen that you will need to cross that finish line of accomplishment. The seeds and flowers of achieving any resolution are invariably the same; neither the size of the resolution nor the person achieving it matters. Successful New Year's Resolutions consist of a clear purpose. I hope you have that pen and paper handy.

For a dream to become a goal, it must be specific. Being thin is an image, losing 10 pounds by March 1 is a true resolution. Be clear on what you want to achieve. Make a New Year's Resolution that you have a real, bona fide intention of keeping. The truth is most people have not made a genuine, serious, no-kidding-around-I-really-mean-to-do-this New Year's Resolution! Put it in writing. Describe precisely what you want, how you will earn it, when you will have it, and the benefits you'll receive from achieving your resolution. Write the details, but don't make it complex. When you put it in writing, you increase your chances of moving to the next step and increasing your level of commitment. Your mind, while blessed with permanent memory, is cursed with lousy recall. Writing your resolution goes a long way towards achieving it.

Commit yourself, I cannot stress this enough. Commitment is essential and habitual. Be consistent. Consistency is the heartbeat of your goal.  I wish for you a New Year of health, wealth, and happiness. May you give yourself many gifts to include: gifts of LOVE, PATIENCE, and FAITH. I encourage you to pursue your resolutions with open arms and to believe deeply in yourself and your ability to enjoy the rewards of resolutions and dreams achieved.

 

2011 Will Be Yours!

STAR ROMAN