DOES THE GUY ALWAYS HAVE TO PAY?
(3 GUYS & A GIRL SOUND OFF)
Adam Says . . .
I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months. During this time, I am paying for most of our meals and activities, with her fronting some of the small stuff. I really don’t mind this arrangement as I am a working individual and she is a student.
The problem comes that she is from an affluent family. Sometimes she orders things, and requests for things that are just a tiny bit outside of my standard of living, although I can still afford it. On top of that – it’s also in her culture to have guys pay for everything. I sometimes feel she doesn’t always have my wallet’s best interest in mind. However, I would like you guys to think she’s naive about it rather than being a gold digger about it.
The question I want to ask you guys and gals out there is – do you expect the man to pay for everything? For how long?
Ricardo Says . . .
Probably opening up a can of worms to a classic debate… but the question popped into my mind again while reading Madame X’s latest posting on the subject at My Open Wallet.
It’s a tough question because it brings up all sorts of issues on equality, feminism, and independence.
Personally, call me old-fashion, but I still have a certain drive to foot the bill when the check comes. My reasoning? It’s mostly because I’m the one
begging asking for the night out.
Am I a sucker perfect for targets by “gold diggers?” Probably not, since driving a Honda Civic doesn’t exactly scream baller. And the fact of the matter is, most people should be able to spot a less than genuine intention.
And this goes both ways too, of course. If you’re the guy and you’re paying the bill for silly reasonings, other than simply wanting to treat someone out, it’ll come across as pretty obvious.
At the end, I also believe that the entire thing can be a moot point as long as both party is on the same page when it comes to the matter. As long as there aren’t any strange strings attached, it shouldn’t be an issue whether the guy or the girl pays for the bill — first date or not.
What’s your take?
Chris Morran Says…
It's nearly the weekend, which means at least some of you will be going out on dates, a handful of which will be first date. And in spite of all talk of gender equality, many people still think it's the man's job to foot the bill.
Does your relationship follow the rule that the guy must pay for every outing? While chivalry is definitely important, is paying the check every week at included in this?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?