Having Trouble Understanding Men? 5 Myths Expelled (and how to get a guy to do anything!)
by Matthew Hussey
There are so many myths out there about the male mind and male psychology that we have been led to believe. Over at Get The Guy we’ve just released an eBook, Secrets Of The Male Mind, which really uncovers it all. But for today, I want to focus on helping those women who are having trouble understanding men.
Let’s face it, all women wonder about what really goes on inside the male mind; but rarely do they get an honest account. From reading this article you are going to have a much greater understanding of men in relationships, male psychology, and the capability to get a guy to do absolutely anything you want!
Myth #1 – Men are afraid of commitment
So many women believe that all men are opposed to the idea of commitment.
It’s just not true.
Think of all the American movies and sitcoms that paint the picture of men being terrified of relationships. Two And A Half Men, Friends, American Pie, Entourage… Men grow up seeing this, and are led to the conclusion that they as men should fear commitment.
As a result, men unjustifiably put up this front that they are commitment phobes, and because of this, women think it’s true!
On top of that, because of these TV shows, men actually start to associate being single with sexual excitement, crazy parties and most importantly freedom – all the while associating commitment with fear.
However, for the women reading this, I assure you that in reality most men have pretty mundane single-lives. They don’t enjoy it anywhere near as much as they enjoy relationships; yet this conditioning really has taken it’s toll, and it’s hard for a lot of guys to realize.
All you have to do is change his associations and break his conditioning so that he realises how much happier he’d be in a relationship.
If you make him WANT to commit and show him that life will only get more fun when he does, committing to you will only excite him more and more.
Myth #2 – A guy will always initiate
I can tell you from previously coaching thousands of men in their love lives that men find it just as difficult to go and start conversations with people they are attracted to as women.
As a woman, you can use this information to your advantage.
If starting a conversation with a guy yourself isn’t something you feel comfortable doing, make it as easy as possible for him to approach you. If you’re standing at the other end of a bar, surrounded by five friends then it’s a lot harder for a guy to pluck up the courage and approach you than it would be if you gave him proximity.
3. Myth #3 – You should give a guy mixed signals
Men are simple creatures. If you confuse them, they tend to give up.
Giving a guy mixed signals, and playing games might seem like a good idea to keep him interested. But more often that not, men take this as a signal of disinterest and they simply give up.
Having said that, don’t show signs of desperation and neediness; just be honest and confident in how attracted you are to a guy.
4. Myth #4 – Men are unfazed by rejection
Men hate rejection just as much as women. The male ego is highly wrapped up in to how he perceives his performance with the opposite sex.
This links back to point #3, as men will give up when they receive mixed signals in order to protect their ego. Make things as obvious as possible for a guy. If he seems interested, but he’s still not asked you out, start making a joke about it. Playfully tell him that you’re still waiting for him to ask you out, and how disappointed you are that he hasn’t yet.
5. Myth #5 – Men are set in their ways and will never change
The reason women think they are never able to change a man’s behaviour is because whenever they try to do so, they do so logically. They try to convince him of why he should do this and that – and nothing ever happens.
Instead, you want to speak to a guy’s emotions, and really make him feel like a man for adopting a new behaviour. How?
Men love turning women on. Aside from perhaps chopping wood, started a fire and shaving a full grown beard, there is no manlier feeling. If you want a guy to change his behaviour in a relationship, rather than saying, “Honey, I would really appreciate it if you did…” try saying, “It really turns me on when you…”
It’s amazing how much hoovering you can get guys to do once they think it turns you on!
When you get inside the male mind in this way, you’ll never be confused about why men act the way they do again.