SHOULD COUPLES LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE?
Whilly Bermudez- Host / Commentator
I hope my teenage daughter isn’t reading this because although we all prefer for our daughters to get married before living with someone- I have to disagree. After having someone live with me and learning how everyone has little differences, pepeeves, and ways of doing things within a home, it’s clear that it’s a good idea to learn some of those things first. Knowing the who, how, and when of your significant other is key to success. In my opinion, this is how you can identify what you can or cannot live with. What do you say?
It's undeniable that marriage and relationships in general look nothing like they did 40 years ago. What's happened? Women's lib, skyrocketing divorce rates, the death of the nuclear family -- and that's just for starters. The whole game has changed.
Sometimes I think that each generation exhibits a reactionary trend to their predecessors.
I am part of the "divorced parents" era. About 60 percent of all people I meet my age come from broken homes. While this phenomenon didn't necessarily make us "anti-marriage," it has certainly made us "marriage cautious" or "marriage disillusioned."
I know the statistics -- if I ever do tie the knot, I know it ain't gonna be all sunshine and roses. And that's why I plan to be as sure as I can possibly, possibly be.
Before I exchange any vows, I've made a vow to myself: I MUST live with someone before I marry them. I'm not alone in this thinking. About 70 percent of couples are cohabiting before marriage these days, according to research from the University of Denver.
When people say, "You never really know someone until you live with them," they are speaking the damn truth.
I realize that there are also opponents of this belief, primarily in the religious arena of society. However, I think you ultimately have to do what you feel will produce the best course of action and its results. Be happy and try to make the least amount of mistakes as possible. ;)