Wednesday, November 17, 2010

What Will You Do When LOVE & Your CAREER Cannot Agree?

What Will You Do When Love & Your Career Cannot Agree?


I grew up in a very traditional household, where my father was the breadwinner, and my mother stayed home and took care of the house, as well as my siblings and me. However, I also grew up in a very untraditional manner. I had to constantly listen to my dad tell me how I needed to be an independent woman. He had it all planned out for me: I needed to go to school, get good grades, get into college and finally find a good job that would allow me to pay my own way -- that way I would never need to depend on a man.

 I am very proud of the woman I've become. I work to pay my bills, and I don't expect my boyfriend or parents to pay for any of my responsibilities. I have dreams and goals and I’m currently working hard to accomplish everything that I want. I also happen to have a boyfriend, who I love dearly, but who isn’t as crazy about my goals as I am. Now let me state that he supports anything that I’d want to do, but he’s made it clear that there is a line and he won’t cross that line with me.

So what happens when the need to make your dreams come true perpetually interferes with your relationship? What does a person do in that scenario?

How do we choose between the career of our dreams and the love of our lives? Do we ever, declare either as the right choice? Better yet, will we regret having made that choice in the future?

We live in a society, where we’re told we can have any and every thing that we want. And then the day comes when we’re tested and we realize that we can't really have it all. By this time we forget what we wanted in the first place and begin to obsess about not being able to have it all.

The truth is that some of us will find ourselves in that kind of situation, and there really is no right or wrong decision, as long as you stay true to yourself. Follow your dreams and make that move if you know that in 10 years from now, you'll still be happy at that job.

Or just follow your heart and stay with the person who makes your heart skip a beat, get married, start a family and live happily ever after. Either way, do what makes you happy at the moment, even if 20 years from now your spouse decides to divorce you.

The key to living a happy life is not regretting the choices you make. It's about recognizing that even if things don't work out as we imagined, we must look at everything as an experience and carry that lesson with us on to the frontier of the next battle in our lives. But always remember and know that it's your life, and as long as you're living it for yourself there's no way you can make the wrong decision.

Will you always wonder what could've happened? Of course. It's human nature, but move on from it and I promise you'll be fine. I know it would be easier if we had a crystal ball to look into for all the right answers, but that would just take the fun out of living.

What would you choose? Love or Profession


Yami Lesca

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  1. That was an amazing article. Thank you for sharing such a common type of issue we deal with now days. It feels good to know "I" am not the only one who finds itself battling between profesionalism and love at times. And that staying true to ourselfs and dreams is the right choice at the end of the day. THanks again for sharing.


  3. I can write a damn book about this topic. While the comment before has it's merit, just like you need to put in hard work to move up the ladder, relationships need to be cultivated so they may grow and flourish. Few are the the relationships where both partners can agree on the end goal and ultimately understand sacrifice.

  4. Why should love b a contingency to a career or vise versa?? I say have them both, but to achieve it, u have to choose wisely n share your life with a person who let's u shine with your own light n is not threatened or intimidated by your success, cuz he/she is confident enough in his own spotlight!

  5. Personally, I believe that your career comes first. If your bf loves you as much as you love him, and if it was meant to be, he'll come back to you. You dont want to have a life that revolves solely around another person. and what if it doesnt work out for you in your relationship? then you are stuck with nothing and have no one to blame but yourself.