Women’s Quest for “Mr. Right”
Marcos Viñas - Host / Commentator
I will keep this topic short and leave room for your minds to reach the place in which I will lead you. How long have you been on the Quest? For many years I have heard the expression from women: “I’m looking for “Mr. Right", and more frequently, as I've gotten older, women tend to use this phrase with glowing eyes and they sort of gaze into the horizon as if picturing the perfect guy. I know my way around this city and I’ve had quite a few conversations with women on this topic and I can say with certainty that there are a lot of ladies out there claiming to be disillusioned with the men in this city. Well here’s the deal ladies, let me say this; I think most women don't even have a clue as to who Mr. Right is or could be. Let's face it, I don't mean all of you, but the vast majority in this town (Miami) and in all other lands too- end up with Mr. Wrong.
Somewhere along the way you meet Mr. Wrong (aka Mr. Douche) and fall head over heels for the guy that treats you the worst! You even get in fight with some close friends & family just to be with him. And the kicker?
You wise up a little bit, some time passes by, you finally end up meeting some nice guy that's well mannered, respectful, and acts like a true gentleman and you come with this phrase "he's just too nice". WHAT DOES THAT MEAN EXACTLY?
When asked what you’re looking for, here are some of the answers:
Great, that sounds like a winner to most people! Hmmm but not to you? So you found a more than decent guy with the above mentioned qualities. But you don't want the guy that sends flowers after a nice date or the guy that treated you with respect and didn't try to sleep with you on the first date. You prefer the guy that doesn't call in a week or so, the guy who will call you and give you all the excuses in the book (as to why his girl cousin is in town this week, but you know it’s not his cousin) He will probably mistreat you because you don’t sleep with him right away. And that list of bad things goes on…
There are men out there that if given the chance, will treat you like queens but I bet some women will find that corny. Instead they want the guy that ends up breaking their hearts. I've been both of those men, but I'd rather stick to my good upbringing and remain the guy who maybe looked as the nice guy, but I will always have class. Honestly, until you can learn to notice what real standards are, your quest will be a long one.
Thanx for reading,
AFTER THOUGHT'S BY:
Rosie Q - Host / Commentator
You bring up very good points when it comes to women's "endless" quest for Mr. Right. First off living in this city (Miami), it becomes very difficult to look beyond looks. Let's face it Miami is a city where its people are beautiful and many times (without trying to generalize) materialistic. I too have heard many friends say how they are looking for Mr. Right while they stare into the horizon...Snap Snap! That would be my fingers snapping them right back to reality, there is no such thing as Mr. Right, and just when you think you found the "prince on the white horse" he falls off it and lands on the woman next to him. It’s all about the perspective for which you see it. What seems to be Mr. Right to you is definitely Mr. Wrong for me.
I agree with you on the idea that women find nice guys as the weaker link, realistically speaking there is nothing "hotter" than a good pursuit. Come on, a challenge is always more exciting. You know what I mean... that thrill of waiting by the phone to see if he'll finally call after a week of waiting, the intrigue of whether or not he finds you to be irresistible, or after the first date wondering if he is dating others or if you are the only one in his life. It’s part of the game we all fall into and play at some point in our lives...
I think that we all have to go through those "not so good" guys or "Mr. Wrongs" to then realize one day what Mr. Right really means to us. What Mr. Right once seemed to be 6'2 with blue/green eyes, entrepreneur with a stable income and who drives himself around town in a bright red corvette...may now be placed on the back burner. It took us to believe in that fictitious man to then one day realize the Mr. Right was really the 5'11, hopeless romantic with deep brown eyes and with the goal of eventually having the "whole concept" of a home with a white picket fence while sharing it with the woman of his dreams. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure that the 6'2, blue/green eyed entrepreneur ends up being someone else's Mr. Right eventually but realistically you discovered that he is not your Mr. Right.
Keep it up Marcos, I guarantee you that class and your good upbringing is definitely on someone’s list of essentials on their quest to find Mr. Right!!!!
Great Blog & Thanks for letting me share,